I’ve received more emails than I’d like to remember asking for my help in finding an English wife. I’m guessing it’s because if you google ‘English wife’, my blog is right at the top of the list or maybe it’s because I share intercultural love stories now and then. Who knows?
I’ve received a variety of odd emails from hopeful senders, here is a sampling:
From those who are desperately particular about blood…
“I am desperately looking forward to get an English-blood girl to live with. Prefer homely,middle-class,village send profiles. please help..”
…to those who think there is a step by step process…
“I want to do marriage with english girl and living in indian style. So. Please inform me that how do complete this stage.”
…and those who think I am a wishing well and simply write…
“I want english wife”
No, I will not ask one of my sisters to marry you. No, I will not circulate your profile (even if you are “middle class”). No, I will not give you tips on finding a girl from “any foreign country, doesn’t matter which”.
I understand that in India, this is the way some people find their spouse. They ask friends and family if they know of a good match, but it’s quite surprising how many people contact me thinking I will set them up with my friends and family if they send me an email with a list of what they are looking for.
That’s something that struck me, nine times out of ten, these emails are just a list of requirements, what their want from their English wife. There is no information about the sender himself, these boys send out such an entitlement vibe. The foreign girl must be like this, this, this and this. What do these boys have to offer?
So, I’m writing this post just to tell those boys that I am not a matchmaking service, I’m sure there are many dating websites out there who would would love to help. I am more than happy to email those in search for some intercultural relationship advice, I love interacting with my readers, but no one is getting a date with one of my sisters.