My husband applies the red powder, sindoor, into my hairline every day. I have been wearing sindoor since our Gandharva marriage (Hindu love marriage), I had to apply it myself whilst I was in England (which was met with curiosity from others) but it feels much more special now that my husband is able to do it. This is a moment which I always look forward to. This ancient tradition of sindoor symbolises of the love, passion and devotion a wife has for her husband, wishing him a long life full of happiness.
Lord Hanuman, the Hindu deity in the form of a monkey, is worshiped as a symbol of strength and courage. A passionate devotee of Lord Rama, Lord Hanuman is also worshiped as a symbol of devotion. One day Lord Hanuman watched as Sita (Lord Rama’s wife) applied sindoor, he was curious to know what this was and why she did this. Sita told him that she wore sindoor to ensure Lord Rama has a long and happy life. Lord Hanuman thought about this for a while, he saw that Sita applied sindoor because she loved Lord Rama and he wanted to show Lord Rama how much he loved him too. The next day Lord Hanuman appeared completely covered, head to foot in sindoor with a big smile on his face.
This is such a sweet story and when you look at the reasons behind wearing sindoor, it is a sweet tradition. My husband has developed a mysterious mark on his forehead which looks like sindoor, maybe it is my love for him reflecting back at me. I love the ancient tradition of sindoor.
I like Hanuman deity. Gives me the feeling of connection to one source and stong believe on his existance. In China, he was also called Sun Ukun (Monkey King) or Son Goku in Japan. It was the first time I got to know this figure when was exporing Chinese mythology.
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He is definitely such a strong and devoted fellow 😀
If you look closely you can see figures are repeated throughout mythology from different cultures.
That is what a part of this post is about 😀
http://englishwifeindianlife.com/sulis-minerva-to-saraswati-saying-goodbye-to-bath/
I hope you are well, dear.
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Yes and major traveller with flying abilities according to Chinese …:)
I’m good and I’m happy to see you doing good too 🙂
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Aaah, im sure those moments when your husband applies sindoor, must be very very special n romantic.. 😀 😉 😛 I think it really creates a strong bond between a husband and a wife! May god bless u both!
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Hi Neeli!
Thank you so much, you are right- it really strengthens the bond (and very special and romantic :P) ! I hope you are well! God bless ❤
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Im doing good Alexandra… 🙂 Wish you a great day ahead
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I never realised this was the story behind it – it seems like such a thoughtful tradition 🙂
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I think it is one of the many stories about it!! It is so lovely and Hanuman is just so cute! 😀
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I never knew about this story of Lord Hanuman. That is such a sweet one. And he applies sindoor everyday ? That is sooooo romantic
God bless you both Lauren 🙂
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Thank you so much, Ritika!!
Yes he does, he is a sweetheart ❤
God bless
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So beautiful! God bless you both xxx
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Ah i totally understand the feeling 😀 my husband does the same and it makes me feel so special. you’ll make a lovely couple and you look great with the sindoor. im glad you’ve reached india safely and are enjoying your time with the husband 😀
take care and do keep in touch.
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Aww!! Thank you so much!
You can definitely understand my feeling then, it is so special! I hope you and your husband are well! Take care and God bless ❤
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This is such a beautiful tradition, I must say. I am fascinated ,watching it in the hindi movies and you look lovely with it 🙂
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Awww! It is an absolutely beautiful tradition!
Thank you so much, dear!
I hope you are well!! ❤
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What a beautiful tradition and what an attractive couple you make. Your husband and you both look radiant with love.
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Very interesting to read about this as many of us follow traditions without thinking about them.
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I loved this story. 🙂 Very sweet.
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Divine love! (I also love Bath, and sulis 😉 )
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Thank you so much!! I have pangs of missing Bath often, I am glad I took the time to say a ‘see you later’ to the beautiful place! ❤
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Oh my. I was just watching Chennai Express, and when Rahul applies vermilion to Meena’s head I thought, “How romantic! ♥ ”
And I can definitely see how it would create a strong bond between a married couple. I didn’t know the purpose behind it, until I did research after the movie. It’s perfect that you explain it as well. Thanks dear. 😀
I love learning. 🙂
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Thank you so much, Crystal! I have not seen ‘Chennai Express’, I hope you are well and your India preparations are going well also! 😀 Let me know if you have any other questions and I will try and post about that with a small story. I have really enjoyed finding mythology and connecting it with my daily life lately ❤
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It’s a wonderful feeling to know, atleast someone * if not most Indians* respects and follows our tradition so much. Thankyou for writing such a beautiful post
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Thank you so much for your comment!! It is definitely a beautiful tradition to follow! I hope you had a great day and thank you again 🙂
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I hope you continue to embrace you’re Indian beauty and have a wonderful marriage! have a great year ahead 🙂
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It is a beautiful tradition and it gives you a special feeling of connectedness. I always liked that story of Hanuman. Here is a link to that scene: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GmhU2DhzD7w
It always makes me smile!
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Thank you so much, Emily! It certainly does feel so special!
Th e video is so nice.I hope you and your husband are well! Take care
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We are well thank you! It is so nice to meet like minded people, I’m looking forward to your future posts. Best wishes to you and your hubby! 🙂
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I worked for four years in an indian international school in Bangkok and most of my co-workers were Indians. My Indian female friends usually wear sindoor whenever they wear the traditional Indian dress. Of course, the attire is completed with a stash of beautiful bangles. But I had no idea that it´s being applied by their husband. Sweet, indeed!
Thanks a lot for allowing me to feature your story at my marriage blog. God bless to you and your hubby.
Best,
Glee
offbeat marriage
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Thank you so much, Glee!
The items that Indian married women are beautiful, and I love how everything has a meaning or a story behind.
I would like to say thank youu so much for featuring our story on your blog. Your blog is great! I hope you are both well! Lots of love
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My husband put sindoor on me during the wedding and he got it everywhere. I apply MY OWN sindoor. And I use a red lip pencil to do it, because the powder is mystery substance that makes my head itch and hair turn white!
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Hi Andrea!
You can get sindoor in liquid form which looks like a lipstick, most ladies here in Nagpur use that, or you can get herbal sindoor which might be less irritating to your scalp? I hope you and your husband are well 🙂
http://www.lakmeindia.com/Lakme-Jewel-Sindoor#.UteOTvQW0mE
Take care
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Wonderful to read your posts. Welcome to India (belatedly). Being the Bahu (daughter-in-law) you will keep receiving an unending list of unsolicited advice. But my request to you would be to keep your personality intact, be the person you have always been, do not loose your individuality. It is very easy to get overwhelmed, it happens even to the Indians getting married within India, I can not fully understand it must be for you to cross the cultural divide.
Take care of your health first, the immunity to handle Indian water, food, spices, environment (air/ weather) will take some time to build up, take small baby step and you will get there. Once you feel confident then start getting involved in the day today activities at home, maybe get some job or work from home. Learn the language, though you can survive by speaking in English, at least learn to understand the local languages (marathi, hindi) it will give you a lot of confidence. Don’t worry you are not alone, a lot of new brides in India (even when they are Indian) feel the same way you are feeling right now. It all happens slowly and soon you will get into your groove.
Do not accept everything on the face value,ask question and let the conviction come through logical answers. India has evolved over the centuries of its existence, it is changing every day, the traditions also change. Even my wife do not put sindoor on her forehead, only on festivals/ special occasions, but that does not mean our love/ care of each other is any less. The philosophical roots of India are too deep and much more important – sindoor, vegetarianism, worship of gods/ goddess, fasting, festivals, etc. etc. are more like symbolism (for a particular religion in this case Hinduism) is just a superficial part of it, if you are able to understand those thoughts, ‘the why part’, then you would know the soul of India then there would be no need to worry about the symbolism.
Congrats for a lovely blog once again, wishing you good health, peace and happiness in 2014 and rest of the life to you and the whole family.
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Hello!
Thank you so much for your comment. I can definitely see what you are saying about Indian culture is always evolving, just like every other culture on this Earth.
My mother-in-law doesn’t wear sindoor either, for me its my personal choice and a tradition I find absolutely enchanting! I personally do not find sindoor, vegetarianism, deities superficial, I think of them as tools to spirituality! I respect that everyone has their own personal paths to God though (i.e. the different religions and even within the same religions). I have also always been interested in symbolism and so coming here to India has been fascinating for me, that is why I write about it in my blog so much.
I love England a lot and find it such a privilege to be a part of two quite different cultures simultaneously. I love finding the similarities and respecting the differences. I have been a vegetarian for many many years now after reading the Bhagavad Gita, so I guess India has played a role in my identity before I even traveled here.
I am much healthier now! I feel like my old self again, I always knew it would take time to get used to the water and food… slowly slowly I am getting there. I am obviously learning Marathi more and more each day.
Thank you so much for your kind words!! I really appreciate it so much!
I hope you and your family are all well! Take care
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I find it so interesting (and admirable) that you were vegetarian for years before meeting your husband and have read the Bhagavad Gita. Your story is so inspiring and really confirms my beliefs in past lives. I am an aspiring vegetarian (still eat chicken and fish) and am taking the Kriya Yoga course of Paramahansa Yogananda. You must have read his “Autobiography of a Yogi.”. I have read many of his books and recommend them. He bridged the gap between Eastern and Western religion.
It is wonderful that you are embracing the culture AND feeling better. Stay well and keep writing about your fascinating and exciting life!
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Thank you so much, Ellen!! I really want to read that book! It has been recommended to me before! I really do love to see the way East meets West!
I hope you well!! Good luck with the vegetarianism! x
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OM HANUMAN NAMAHA! One of the things I love about Lord Hanuman is that he was always curious about life, and his pure devotion to Lord Rama was love that cannot be described. Thanks for this wonderful post! I love your blog, and will definitely promote it on mine. 🙂
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Thank you so much, Los! This story is such a lovely way to show his devotion, curiosity and love. We are hopefully going to Ramtek this Sunday, a temple where Lord Rama spent some of his time in exile, I hear it is full of monkeys and has a presence of Lord Hanuman (I will blog about the trip!). Take care. Om Hanuman Namaha 😀
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Excellent! Take lots of pictures, and if possible, light a candle or something similar for me, please! 🙂
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I will definitely light a candle for you, Los! There is a Hanuman temple close by, I will visit it and think of you 😀
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Thank you very much!!! 😀 😀 😀
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haha 😀 The only difference is Lord Hanuman is praised with “JAI HANUMAN” . 😉
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I am certain Lord Hanuman doesn’t mind 🙂
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hmm…I may not agree with completely with that. Lord Hanuman is someone who doesn’t know his powers. If you have observed carefully, in Ramayan he was portrayed in a such a way that he isn’t that intelligent as of ram or laxman or any others….he is someone of immense strength and has strong divinity towards his lord Rama after all he is the incarnation of lord Shiva himself ,both of whom are more emotional. Let me put in few examples….1) As a child, believing the sun to be a ripe mango, Hanuman pursued it in order to eat it. Rahu, a Vedic planet corresponding to an eclipse, was at that time seeking out the sun as well, and he clashed with Hanuman. Hanuman thrashed Rahu and went to take sun in his mouth
2) When Lakshmana is severely wounded during the battle against Ravana, Hanuman is sent to fetch the Sanjivani, a powerful life-restoring herb, from Dronagiri mountain in the Himalayas, to revive him. Hanuman was again praised that only he could get that herb in time because he isn’t aware of his powers. And when he reached there..he couldn’t find that herb instead he uprooted the mountain itself and brought it.. 😀 #sweetHanuman 😀
3) another such instance is when he was asked to fly over sea to sri lanka. He never believed he could fly and take such giant leaps…
That is why he needs to be praised in my opinion…Hanuman Chalisa is one such example
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Thank you so much for all that information!
What I meant to say was, praising Lord Hanuman is more important than the words you use to do it with. The intention, love and devotion.
Take care
Lauren
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You are officially promoted on my latest post! 🙂
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Thank you so much, Los. You’re extremely kind!
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You both make a lovely couple and the mysterious reflective mark is such a beautiful thing to happen! You indeed are very lucky! God bless you both! X
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Thank you! Yes, it is so beautiful and extremely mysterious! Lots of love x
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Your blog is so interesting! 🙂 Could you please recomend some books on hindu traditions and on India in general? 🙂
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Thank you!
I’m great fan of the mythologist Devdutt Pattanaik
I hope you are well, thank you so much for reading 😀
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A picture speaks 100 times more than words. Hence I would like to tell you to watch the Indian(not necessarily Bollywood) movies where you learn a lot of Indian costumes, customs and traditions(its diversity is beyond description). I am a lover of books, music, art and movies. If you want to learn I could help. Email me at snigdhadhal@hotmail.com. Have a nice day.
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Thank you so much, Snigdha!
I hope you are well
Lauren xxx
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I LOVE LOVE LOVE to wear sindoor. I think it looks so pretty on the hairline. I like to wear mine in a bright red-orange color. It is a very romantic moment when husband puts on the sindoor 🙂
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I have seen a photo of you wearing red/orange sindoor and it suits you SO MUCH… and it is extremely romantic! 😀 x
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I somehow think Gandharva Vivah is live in relationship. Hindu love marriage is Prem Vivah
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Hi Ajit,
‘Prem’ is just the literal translation of ‘love’. Gandharva Vivah is one of the eight types of Hindu marriage and is mentioned in the Mahabharata. It does not merely mean love in a relationship.
I hope you are well.
Lauren
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Ahh I have no words for this love filled post.. Masha’Allah.. God bless you both. Such a wonderful couple and I just love, love, love the meaning behind sindor. I never knew what the exact meaning was, other than that married women apply it to show they are married. Thank you so much.
Much love and light,
Shaidi
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Thank you, Shaidi!!
I hope you are well. Lauren x
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When we got married, our panditji told us that the sindoor on a wife’s forehead draws the husband’s attention towards her and hence, increases their attraction and love towards each other. But today’s women! They don’t want to apply the sindoor! No wonder the husbands are so distracted 😛 All the elders were quite tickled. So was the panditji who kept chuckling to himself. Hehehe. 🙂
I do love how you enjoy our traditions. 🙂
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Awwww! That is a nice description 😛 what a cheeky panditji! I hope you are well
Lauren
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I never knew this story behind the tradition of applying sindoor… nor did I know about Parvati’s story which you have mentioned in another post of yours… I wonder how come I, being an Indian know so less about our own culture…You seem more enthusiastic about applying sindoor than my sister or SIL… It’s a pleasure to read about your life… 🙂
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Awww thank you for reading!! I love learning all of these stories and then sharing them hehe
Take care
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Hi there,
Good day and Jai Hanuman! I wish you and your husband the best in life and may Lord Hanuman bless you both. I must say that the both of you made a handsome couple. It’s wonderful that you’re wearing Sindoor but why do you only put a speck of it on your forehead? Sindoor is meant to be applied in your part (maang); from the starting of your part (forehead) to the middle of your head. I’m sure your husband didn’t just put a speck on your forehead when the both of you were married. I think that putting it on your whole part will make you look even prettier; you’re a beautiful woman!
Jai Hanuman and God bless!
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Dear D Singh,
Thank you so much for your lovely comment. My sindoor style changes daily depending on my mood. I hope you are well! Take care 🙂
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