Lauren

Long Distance Marriage

It has been just over two months since we were married and we are living 5,671 miles apart (because when you’re far away from someone you love, you end up googling this type of stuff!). It never crossed my mind I would end up in a long distance relationship, let alone a long distance marriage. It’s been a whirlwind, we only dipped our toes in the honeymoon period before continents separated us.  Every morning it’s the same, stepping straight from sleep into a daydream, “if only you were here too”.

“Just get a plane ticket and leave”, says my heart. Unfortunately, I have a problem with my head (in more ways than one, some may say); if I were to leave England now, I will be giving up the opportunity to qualifying as a registered pharmacist. This is something I have studied to become for over four years (I graduated with my master’s degree this Summer… I’ve surprised myself). I will complete my training in eleven months. I keep hearing myself and others say, “well, it is only a year” and “you would regret it if you gave up now after all your hard work”. My heart swiftly interrupts, do I even want to be a pharmacist?
I can remember my secondary school sociology teacher explaining the concept of ‘deferred gratification’, giving up the instant rewards and enduring hardship for a superior reward. Is the accomplishment of becoming a pharmacist the superior reward?  Do I want to become a miserable pharmacist when I have decided to live in India one day. I’m not enjoying the training at all, I’m constantly overwhelmed by the feeling that a pharmacist is expected to be more focused on making a profit than making a difference, by their employer. Things might get better.

To try to make this year more bearable I am going to try so hard not to be down and make the most of this (lonely and seemingly stagnant) time. Keep busy, keep smiling and keep remembering that eleven months is not so long compared to a life time.

I really I hope that the sociology teacher was right and becoming a pharmacist is worth it. Working in a pharmacy can be interesting and very rewarding, but it is also really emotional and stressful and I never fail to take any stress or upset home with me. I hope I will be able to look back on this year and be proud of myself for not giving up and completing my postgraduate training. Until then, I will just keep looking forward to Diwali when I will have a two week break from work return to India, even if it is for only a short while!

UPDATE: The reason I won’t be able to go to India for Diwali….

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  2. I know you and your husband REALLY miss each other, but before you know it, you’ll be reunited… forever. Because I truly feel like a bond like this is strong enough to transcend a single lifetime. 🙂 I’ll be going to Greece for only 2 months this spring and it’ll be so hard to be way from the love of my life… I can’t imagine an entire year! You are so strong. ^_^

    Thanks taking a look at my blog, by the way. I appreciate your comment!

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  3. Dear Lauren, you just left a comment on my blog “Archangels and Devas” and I was prompted by your passion to know more about the Devas and decided to check out your blog. I am thrilled for you that you have found your Twin flame here on the Earth Realm. I am connected with my Twin also, but he does not exist on the Earth realm. Our marriage though is very real and I know how strong the TF bond can be and how absolutely blissful the TF union is. I wish you everything of the best. From time to time I write articles with my Twin, so do stay in touch on the blog and I will do the same here! Love & Divine Blessings ♥ Debbie

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  5. So much love, that is wonderful 🙂 I wish you to have a great and busy year so time could fly 😉
    I am actually waiting for my boyfriend to come from India in France for his studies… I’ve been waiting for him for a month now, it’s driving me crazy but I know waiting is the worst part and I feel better when I think of our future, when we’ll be reunited… ❤
    stay strong and as great as you seems to be now 🙂
    I'll keep on following your posts, thanks for sharing your feelings!! 🙂

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  6. This is really a heart touching story. I’m so pleased to read your lovely blog!
    You looks GR8 in indian outfit. So plan your Honeymoon soon and visit Kashmir.
    Wishing you so much love and happiness 🙂

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  10. Thanks for sharing. Reminds me of my own situation, in which I’ve just begun a long distance relationship with my husband as I start a tour across the country for 10 Billion Lives. “Every day I wake up and we speak…at 4am Pacific Standard Time… because he’s in NYC… and I’m in California.” The story of my husband and me going long distance within a year of our marriage. http://www.nynomads.com

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